Disclaimer: I don't care if I offend you with this. You can't say anything without offending someone, and unless you want to explain why you were offended and try to change my mind, I don't care.
A friend of mine just linked me to an article on The Huffingon Post that made my brain hurt. If you didn't click it (and if you don't want your brain to hurt, I'd recommend not doing so), it's about a woman dating a feminist man. I'm not horribly fond of feminism, so it shouldn't be hard to figure out what I think of the article as a whole, but fuck this was bad. I'll break down what I think of the post in the following paragraphs based on the points she made in the article
1.) He knows your body is yours, but at this point that's not an achievement.
That's not too surprising at this point in time. A lot of men understand that women's bodies are their own, and women understand the same thing. You don't have to be a feminist to figure that out. As a question, though, what if you were making a legitimately stupid decision with your body and a man told you it might be a bad idea? Would he be a misogynist for not letting you go in without a second opinion on this? Like if you wanted to tattoo a dick on your forehead, for example. Not the best idea, and you'd be left with (at least) a scar for the rest of your life. Some women are stupid and will get this stupid shit done to themselves. Note that I said some. Some men are likely just as stupid. Would a man be misogynistic if they didn't want you to go through with that, though?
2.) Gender stereotypes work for some people. Some women like being housewives, some don't. Deal with it.
I'm not going to say everyone wants to go with it, or that everyone should go with it, but it works for a lot of people. Those lot of people should be able to make that choice without being degraded by you. I know that sounds slightly oxymoronic, since I am currently insulting this woman, but she doesn't want to be insulted. If you judge people, expect to be judged. I know I expect to be, and I don't give a shit. Try to change my mind and I'll be happy to listen (no sarcasm there).
3.) Making sexist jokes makes you about as much of a sexist as making racist jokes makes you a racist.
People will make jokes at anyone's expense. It's a thing. Someone who doesn't usually got raised saying that minorities or people who are treated unfairly are so burdened by their current situation that someone making a joke at their expense would completely collapse their psyche. I'm sorry, it doesn't work that way. People get offended by jokes because they have a hard time controlling their own emotions. I'm not saying there aren't truly offensive jokes out there that push the edge a little too much, but just change the damn channel. If the only people the comedian appeals to is the KKK, they'll be losing their fanbase fast. Refusing to tell a joke because the butt of the joke is a person who's in the minority is essentially saying they're too weak to handle the joke. It's insulting, in my opinion.
4.) It breeds, eh?
There are generally enough inequalities between the genders nowadays that we have to deal with about he same amount of shit. Women, go put your name on the Selected Services form and dish out an equal amount of child support relative to your pay. Also, start smelling repulsive. Men have inequalities, too. Also, the fact that he's instilling the knowledge that his daughter can do anything into his daughter is standard, not specific to feminist men. It's a thing parents tell their children all the time (even if they don't mean it and just really really want them to be a doctor). Also, being wise beyond your years is your perception. Your grandparents probably thought you were wise beyond your years because you stopped drooling before your parents did. This is also accompanied by a .gif that says "Who run the world? GIRLS!" If you want women to run the world instead of men, then you're sexist towards men. I'm not saying men or women should exclusively run the world, since women are better than men at some things and vice versa. You need both or you'll get fucked. Not in the good way, either.
5.) He's passionate about women's rights? Good for him. Tell him to get my name off the selected services or put yours on it.
People who are passionate about one thing tend to be blind to opposing viewpoints. This section leads to two different articles about female... things? One about how Massachusetts has an oversight in their laws about taking upskirt pictures of women, and the other about how some woman got elected as a democratic nominee for something or other. I'd like to say that no one who isn't taking the pictures agrees with the first one. I'm not a feminist and I don't, mostly because I view consent as the most important thing in any situation. If pictures got published online of someone, did they want the pictures to be put online? If not, then it's wrong. Even if they consented to having the pictures taken, they didn't consent to having them distributed. On the second one, remember Hillary Clinton? Yeah, the one who said the crazy shit about women were the primary victims of war? She was a presidential candidate, too. Question, though, I wonder if she's all for the men who have wives in the military who wind up getting stuck raising their kid. You know, the single dads out there who could really use some help? Those exist, too.
6.) Nobody gives a shit if you like being tied up and spanked, woman.
Well, maybe a couple of people, but not most people. I'm wondering if she asked her husband if she could post details about their sex life on the Huffington Post, though. If not, then you don't really deserve the first point.
7.) Because women and men have absolutely no biological differences.
Women don't have tits, neither do men. Men and women both have the exact same genitals and appear physically similar beyond being bipedal, having arms, and a face. We're different and inherently unequal, but that inequality isn't a bad thing. We shouldn't walk around the world being completely blind to the differences we have as people. Not all women are the same, and neither are all men. I don't think that these differences should warrant different treatment, but they shouldn't be outright ignored. Hell, could you imagine what the world would be like if we weren't allowed to point out any differences in anyone? There are no descriptions of someone who just robbed you. Suddenly that six foot tall white male with short hair becomes "A person". Suddenly your 5'8'' wife with gorgeous blonde hair, nice tits, and amazing curves becomes "the human being you sleep with on a regular basis". We're all different in many ways including our genders, and being blind to genders just cuts one more thing out of the equation. I think in terms of decision making that could affect the person's life in a way that will extend for a while (i.e. choosing how much they deserve to be paid) should be made not based on who they are, but how well they do their work. It's not like the head CEOs of any company are going to fuck the hourly employee, anyway.
That being said, I do think women and men should be treated equally. If law mandates that one gender has to do it, so does the other, or no gender. If a couple gets divorced, I think both parents should be judged equally based on their life, since a crackhead mother will probably be a worse parent than a Walmart cart pushing dad. If the dad winds up with the child, then the mother should have to pay an equal amount of child support to them. Equal based on pay, of course. Nobody should have to pay $750 in child support when they only make $1,000 a month just because their significant other makes $4,000 a month. These numbers may be off, I'm not a lawyer and have no intention of becoming one.